Resources
Books, organizations, and other resources at the intersection of faith, sexuality, kink, and identity. I will only ever list things I have personally read, used, or experienced — honest recommendations, not a curated-looking list.
Books
Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition by Rabbi Steven Greenberg
The first book by an openly gay Orthodox rabbi, wrestling honestly with Torah, tradition, and same-sex love. A remarkable act of courage and scholarship that challenged me deeply — both as someone immersed in Jewish faith and culture, and as a gay man of faith myself.
Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts A psychotherapist and gay Christian, Roberts dismantles the shame that purity culture attaches to sexuality — and builds something better in its place. His four paradoxes of sex (healthy and risky, vulnerable and protective, safe and unsafe, getting it wrong and right at the same time) gave me language for something I had been living but could not articulate. A values-based framework for sexual ethics that quietly opens the door to everything Faith and Fetish walks through.
The Deep Psychology of BDSM and Kink: Jungian and Archetypal Perspectives on the Soul of Dark Eros by Douglas Thomas
A serious psychological and archetypal exploration of kink — what it means, where it comes from, and why it matters. Not written from a Christian perspective, but profound in its respect for the subject and the people who live it.
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
This is not a book about faith, and it is not about the intersection of spirituality and kink. What it is — plainly and practically — is a guide to what it looks like to practice submission. If you have ever wondered what “bottoming” actually involves, how it works, what it requires emotionally and physically, and why someone would choose it, this book answers those questions with warmth, clarity, and zero shame. Easton and Hardy write about consent, vulnerability, communication, and the particular kind of strength it takes to surrender control to another person. Reading it, I recognized so much of what I describe in Faith and Fetish — the trust, the negotiation, the paradox of finding freedom in submission. I recommend it to anyone who wants to understand what this practice looks like before (or alongside) reading about what it means spiritually.
Film
1946: The Mistranslation That Shifted Culture (2022)
A documentary tracing how the word “homosexual” entered the Bible through specific mid-twentieth century translation choices — and what that means for how Christians have read scripture ever since. It contributed significantly to my understanding of the New Testament passages most often cited in debates about LGBT identity and faith. Essential viewing for anyone wrestling with those texts.
Organizations
This section is under construction. I am not going to recommend organizations I have no personal experience with. More will be added here as I find communities and resources I can genuinely vouch for.
Need someone to talk to?
If you’re navigating questions about faith, identity, kink, or any combination of all three — you’re welcome to reach out. I’m not a counselor, but I am someone who has walked this road.